Guys, girls and feelings... what a dilemma. You know just yesterday I heard about a girl whose parents will not let her date until she is 23. She is currently 16. This girl is not even allowed to like someone. Now while I understand that her parents love her and only want what is best for her; and while the Bible does call for children to respect their parents, well the Bible also calls for parents to not exasperate their children. It also says God never gives us burdens heavier than we can carry, and it calls us to be like Him. So parents should not give their kids rules to hard to follow, or to unreasonable to bear.
Look if you are a teen or a parent reading this, just stay with me. I am going to make a case for this poor teen. We all want someone special, and we all want to love and to be loved. This poor girl's parents must have forgotten what it was like when they were young. I remember being only six, yes people 6 years old and feeling in love with a fellow kindergartener called Luis Ricardo. We used to hold hands and dream with getting married one day. Strange story yes, nevertheless true. Now did I end up marrying Luis Ricardo, nope, my dad got a job in a different country and we ended up moving there. My love story with Luis Ricardo ended at the airport when he came to say goodbye with a sweet little teddy bear for me.
What is my point? Is my point that six year olds should date? Nope not at all, if that is what you think you missed the point completely and you need to read more carefully lol. My point is that any of us at any given time, are capable of having feelings for a special someone. We are not robots that can be programmed, and we are not in control of when or for who we get romantic feelings for. Parents are being unreasonable if they think they can try to regulate when their kids can start having romantic feelings for someone.
I remember also in primary school, and in primary school plenty a kid had crushes and plenty a kid had girlfriends/boyfriends. Primary School, that was like over 30 years ago for me gulp, but it gives you a good point of reference of how things truly have not changed all that much. Humans are humans and will always be humans. Wow that was deep lol. No but for real, no matter the year, no matter the technology the human heart always remains the same. What we choose to do with the feelings we get might have changed a lot, but that is a topic for a different post, but the feelings themselves have always been the same, from the beginning of time.
In my opinion parents should try their best to be reasonable, and at least meet their kids half way. Parents need to make an effort to remember how things were when they were young. Trying to make unreasonable demands, only makes kids hide things from their parents. Why? Because we can't help how we feel, and we will be afraid to share what is in our mind and heart when we know our feelings are being judged harshly.
So if your parents have unreasonable rules, try to talk to them. If that does not work, try to talk to someone in the family or in your group of friends you trust, that can talk to them. If that does not work, well pray. God always helps, and if you are patient...and you are respectful, eventually things will get better.
Having feelings is normal. Acting on those feelings is a whole other thing. Take your time. Make God your priority. Pray and all will fall into place!
Life is good, God is love and you are extraordinary! Don't ever forget that!
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