We all make assumptions. We think we know others. We think we know how they think, what makes them tick. We make an assumption, then a judgement. Next thing we know, we have labeled a person without ever giving them a chance. I am here to make a proposal, lol.
What is my proposal?
Well, my proposal is, that if we choose to make assumptions, lets err on the side of kindness. If you see someone for the first time, if you meet someone new, make a commitment that from now on, you will give them a chance, or two, or three. And how do we go about doing that? Well, just choose to give the benefit of the doubt. So let's try to stop the labels:
- He is a loser
- She is too young
- He is conceited
- She is weird
- He is loud
- She is full of herself etc.
If we meet a very beautiful girl, lets assume she is not only beautiful - she is also holy and kind.
If we meet a very ugly person, lets assume they might be ugly - but their soul shines like the sun.
If we meet someone that seems like a dumb dumb (by the way, lol, that very easily could be me), assume the person is nervous and let them warm up to you - perhaps they will surprise you.
If we meet someone that is a tad dry, hard to talk to, let's assume they had a rough day and maybe - next time they will dazzle us.
Some people have a rough time at home, or a rough life. Others might have had bad experiences meeting new people. If we give people a chance, usually we will be pleasantly surprised. In giving someone the benefit of the doubt, perhaps we will be giving ourselves the gift of meeting someone truly extraordinary.