Ten days ago I went to a Shawn Mendez concert. It was wonderful. He was full of joy and the concert concentrated on his skills; his gifts as a musician, not a spectacle to cover up the fact that he might not be as good as people perceive him to be, no bells and whistles - Just Shawn Mendez, his smile, his sweetness, his honesty and his guitar. It was refreshing. As we were dancing and singing the song "Stitches" came up. And as he sang from his heart, I reflected upon the fact that no matter how famous, how rich, how handsome, how gifted - this man had suffered. And as I looked around the stadium, people singing from the top of their lungs - all those people knew how it felt to hurt to the point, where you think, you might just need stitches.
All human beings have hearts. And all hearts long for love. Sometimes we make a mistake and we give love to the wrong person. Our heart breaks and we grieve. We feel that our life can't go on. we physically feel the pain.
At these times we need to remember that everyone has gone through something similar. I would be willing to bet that there is not a human being, that has not been heart broken to the point they nearly needed "stitches". When we realize it's not us, that it happens to everyone - and that it takes time and courage to find our person, our vocation, our calling, our purpose in life - then we can begin to heal.
Perhaps part of the pain is because we need to let go of control. We humans usually think we know everything, but we don't. There is a big part of life that needs faith and trust in God's plan for us. We are not alone, we are loved and cared for by a God that has a purpose and a wonderful plan for our life. He truly does work all things unto good for those who love him. We need to trust and to remember we are indeed loved, and that sometimes the timing is just not right.
When our heart breaks and we fell the loneliness and pain that brings, we need to lean on God. When you need stitches because somebody has lied, or betrayed your trust and your love - know that God will never leave you and that his grace will always be available for healing.
We might need "Stitches"- but the good thing about stitches is that it is the first sure step for healing. Take care of the wound, and do your part. Stay away from the person that hurt you. Not because of revenge, but because you need a lot of time to heal. A wound can get stitches and heal, or a wound can get stitches and if we keep picking at it, or hurting it over and over again, that wound will get infected and even cause a gangrene. It is up to you to help your wound heal well.
Wait until your wound is completely healed and you are strong. Block that person from everywhere in your social media, and do not answer their calls. Avoid them like the plague, at least from 6 months to a year. Some people might need to leave your life for good: they are that toxic, that unwilling to change, that selfish, that manipulative etc.
Remember: It is not revenge it is survival.
